“They are us”

“Let me guess,” I said to my husband, “It’s a young white man.”

“Yep.” he dolefully responded.

I didn’t think about it for the rest of the day. I didn’t have to. It was worlds away and didn’t really worry or particularly impact me.

Over dinner, I watched the news. New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern called the white supremacist shooter a “terrorist.” Good for you, I thought. Then she said this:

“Many of those who will have been directly affected by this shooting may be migrants to New Zealand. They may even be refugees here. They have chosen to make New Zealand their home, and it is their home. They are us. The person who has perpetuated this violence against us is not. They have no place in New Zealand.” – New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern

I admire Prime Minister Ardern. She seems like a leader I could get behind. I get what she’s saying and I appreciate her inclusive attitude towards refugees. I agree whole heartedly with half of what she’s saying. The other half, unfortunately, is completely untrue.

For Jacinda Ardern and I, the people who perpetrated the massacre this morning are us. They benefit from white privilege, and I benefit from white privilege. They get to be individuals and their actions won’t reflect on me. Because of white privilege, I’m not going to get racially profiled and pulled over from the security line for extra checks at the airport. Because the actions of these white supremacists do not reflect on me.  Because of white privilege, governments aren’t going to make laws about what I’m allowed to wear or look like because, I don’t know, my blonde hair and blue eyes suggest allegiance to white fanaticism. Because the actions of these white supremacists do not reflect on me.

In her book Muslim Girl, Amani Al-Khatahtbeh talks about growing up in New Jersey and her experiences with Islamophobia after 9/11. She recalls that with each subsequent bombing, mass shooting, plane crash, her community would collectively hold their breath, waiting for news of whether a Muslim person was involved. Once the word “terrorist” was used they knew it was all over – a Muslim person had been implicated and by extension so had their whole community. They feared for their safety, they feared for their property, they feared for the well-being of their children. In Al-Khatahtbeh’s case, they returned to Jordan for several years to escape Islamophobia.


So Jacinda Ardern, took a stand and called white mass shooters “terrorists”, which is a step in the right direction. (And it’s a hell of a lot better than not denouncing them at all and suggesting they’re “very fine people.”) She said of the Muslim refugee shooting victims that “they are us”. This is a wonderful sentiment, an aspirational sentiment; but more than likely it is also a revisionist statement that ignores whatever Islamophobia and xenophobia and racism that exists in New Zealand. To ignore this is tantamount to social gaslighting. Because do you know who weren’t surprised by the attack on Muslims in Christchurch? Muslim communities around the world.  

So it is way, way too easy for ANY of us white people to say, “that doesn’t have anything to do with my culture or my values.”  For years Muslim individuals and communities have been forced to get on the defensive, to prove that “most of us are good people!”, to take responsibility for the actions of the fanatical few, to prove their schools and mosques are not promoting fanatical Islam.  If we take the step to call the Christchurch white supremacists “terrorists” then we also need own up to and denounce the culture that made them by openly condemning white supremacy, white privilege and toxic masculinity.

Because these 8-chan reading, Fortnite playing, PewDiePie watchers might be our students.  And I don’t mean we should worry about them like this:

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I mean that as teachers, we have a responsibility to prove that our schools and communities are not promoting white supremacy, white privilege and toxic masculinity. In this impassioned and supportive article For White Teachers Teaching White Boys in the Suburbs, Tom Rademacher implores us to be mindful of the messages white kids, and especially white boys, are getting.

“We don’t talk enough about the boys in our classrooms, the boys who spend too much time on Reddit and 4-Chan, who are playing with ideas around race, around gender, around attraction. We don’t talk enough about the White boys consuming messages about what is owed them, about what is being taken. We don’t talk enough about White boys at a crossroads, about what we can do to interrupt them inheriting the power and permission to pursue their worst instincts.” – Tom Rademacher

This is a missing element in our curricula – a deliberate combating of the sense of entitlement, masculine entitlement, white privilege entitlement, class entitlement. If anything,  schooling seems to promote a sense of entitlement and the subsequent anxiety students feel when they don’t get access to the opportunities they feel entitled to. (And the college admissions scandal in the US doesn’t help either.)

So while Jacinda Ardern and good people all over the world want to condemn and distance themselves from these murderous people, those of us who move through the world as white people need to carefully consider the fall-out from this attack. White people need to notice when we are not being lumped in with these terrorists. We need to acknowledge that it is a privilege to frame the story as “them not me.” We need to realise that the white supremacy those terrorists murdered for is already a fact of life – and something we benefit from every day. 


3 thoughts on ““They are us”

  1. Julie, this post is breathlessly spot on. You illustrate all the mental traps especially white people as the dominant (still) majority group can fall into in the wake of a white power terrorism attack. Thank you for writing lucidly while many of us are still wringing our hands rather than considering the many ways we fail to interrupt the effects of white supremacy, toxic masculinity combined with islamophobia on the students in front of us, particularly those we recognize as cis white males.

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  2. A big yes to all of this! I’m always so shocked when teachers in predominantly white institutions say they don’t teach much about race because of their population. You’re the ones who have the most teaching to do! I know it’s uncomfortable to have these conversations and do this work, but we have to. And I really want to read Tom Rademacher’s article now. Thanks for mentioning it. This whole piece is really thoughtfully argued and it’s important. I hope it finds more readers! (And another yay to Sherri for inviting these conversations in our slices this month!)

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  3. This is an incredible post. Thank you for articulating so many ideas that I’ve only toyed with after this shooting. Thank you for noticing that Arden’s words are aspirational, for reminding me that I have an obligation to teach white boys about these ideas, for… well, for writing this. I’ve bookmarked Tom Rademacher’s article, too. Thanks for this.

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